Demolition of the home → psychological problems
In today's society, people pay more and more attention to mental health. Pets, too, will also face various psychological problems of varying degrees. Separation anxiety is one of the common ones. In order to solve the problems such as demolition, we must solve the fundamental psychological problems.
The child of the counselor's family.
As a psychological counselor, he applied the knowledge he learned to pet and raised two lovely babies. Potatoes have been with me for almost 24 hours since I was a child, so there is no chance to tear down the house. At most, when I was a child, I "went to the house to uncover the tiles". Pearls spend more time at home alone. There was a time when wolves howled and urinated, but now they are very good at home alone. Below is their worst behavior.
In the face of many pet-raising experts, the following experience may not be mentioned. The following sharing only represents personal opinions.
the following potato hemp sharing.
1. protection
Mao's children have already torn down their homes. What will you do when you go home and see a mess?
reprimands❓
Beat❓
NONONO!❌That would be a big mistake! The reprimand or beating will only seem to work for a while because of fear, or even not at all. On the contrary, it will make the children lack a sense of security, and the anxiety of separation cannot be resolved, which will breed problems of one kind or another.
in the face of the crazy demolition of Mao children, first take the "prevention" policy, put away the items that can be dismantled, the space can be reduced, the home is all "iron walls", want to dismantle, can't dismantle that kind. Then give him more love and enhance the sense of security of Mao children! Be as inclusive and caring as possible!
potato hemp another trick, that is to set boundaries. Usually at home, in addition to playing with potato preserved eggs, they also form the habit of letting them stay alone in an independent space, that is to say, the owner does not belong to the hairy children at home, and should have his own space. For example, the fixed work and rest time, from 10:00 to 11:00 in the morning, is the time for potatoes and preserved eggs to bask in the sun and entertain themselves. The balcony gives them cushions, toys or chewy snacks. They are not allowed to disturb me, and I do not disturb them (deliberately keep a distance). The same is true for the time after lunch. There is space for each other. At the beginning, this kind of time is always a little unbearable, Mao children come to ask for a hug, must be cruel to refuse, the establishment of rules is very important, pet also need rationality. The seemingly harsh way is actually good for them. They learn to get along with themselves, will not be too dependent on the master.
2. treatment
It has been two months since the preserved egg arrived home. He has been living with his parents, brothers and sisters before. He has a lively and active personality. I adopted "appreciation and punishment education" for him ". The so-called punishment is to tell him sternly when he makes a mistake that it is wrong and he will not be rewarded.
when the preserved egg first got home, his sister always stayed with him at home. later, when his sister could not stay with him at home, he began to howl, urinate in the sand, hit him the first time he came home, and he would make mistakes again, because his psychological problems had not been solved, and when he was alone at home, he was nervous, scared and anxious, so he made all kinds of mistakes. It's no use beating it hard.
I installed a surveillance camera at home and accompanied him in the surveillance. I called "preserved eggs, preserved eggs are good, wait for hemp to go back." He will be quiet for a while (of course, the premise of doing so is that he has been developed to be quiet when he hears your voice, which will be discussed later) and gradually extend the interval. Slowly ten minutes a call, extended to fifteen minutes a call, step by step, separation anxiety desensitization training.
at the same time, shorten his time alone, let him go home in the middle of the baby, take him outside or to the toilet to poop, hug him, touch his head, let him go to the balcony nest to bask in the sun, play with toys, or give him another bite-resistant food.
now, preserved eggs can also wait at home for baba hemp and sister to come home!
3. teaching
Tudou has been by my side since I was born. I have never yelled at him from learning fixed-point urine to learning socialized life. Tudou is educated by "appreciation education".
Take fixed-point urination as an example, prepare urine pads, dog toilets, etc., and take him to the designated place if you master his rules. Even if you urinate in the toilet only once in ten times, you should give a thumbs up, "Awesome! Awesome!" Can't rush to see the nine times he didn't pee in the toilet.
do the right thing to praise, in fact, is also a kind of hypnosis, let him think he is excellent, excellent. Over time, if you think about more rewards, you will do more things that can be rewarded, and you will naturally not do or do less bad things. Dogs are typical opportunists, and their ability to avoid disadvantages is by no means what you can expect.
While appreciating praise, it also establishes trust between parents and children, which is also very important.
4. communication
At home, all the children are raised as children, and the children raised by different families are also different. Parents who are irritable and love to lose their temper may also be irritable, unconfident, and have various problem behaviors. For parents with a peaceful mind, the children will be relatively peaceful and docile, and there will be fewer relative problems. This is what we often say "dogs like their owners."
the problem of hairy children sometimes lies with the owner, and the reason should be found from the owner.
communication is also needed between pets. some people will say that children do not understand human language. However, psychologist Herabean once proposed a formula: the total effect of information dissemination = 7% language + 38% intonation speed + 55% expression and action, which is also applicable to people's pets. The information passed by the host to the Mao children is more conveyed through intonation, speed of speech and body expressions. With your thoughts and concepts, the Mao children are subtly influenced.
to make communication the norm, only the ditch can communicate and understand.
I often chat with the potato preserved egg brothers, reason and talk about their hearts. They can get to a lot of points. If they talk more, they will naturally communicate with each other more.
SO if Mao children understand you, as you think, you are the best example, learn peace and cultivate patience, Mao children will also learn peace and quiet. The process of raising a child is also a process of self-growth.
5. acceptance
A child is the same, accept his temperament, tolerate his personality, don't use your expectations to measure him.
our children, the current situation is already the best, we just want to seek better!
6. epilogue
The formation of psychological problems is not a day or two. If they are not paid attention to and properly solved, they will become more and more serious. Therefore, it is even more urgent for children who have dismantled their homes to "suit the remedy to the case" is the best.
the host usually needs to pay more attention to the mental health of Mao children, so that he can be good to me and everyone can be good to everyone, and people can enjoy each other and have less troubles!
P.S.: The above is based on my personal experience and is for reference only.
